Why I want a dog but can’t have a dog.
I want a dog!
Recently, I’ve found it increasingly difficult resist the urge to get a dog. I don’t think watching the new BBC TV series ‘Choose the right puppy for you’ has helped! Every week, we sit on the sofa ‘ahhing’ and ‘cooing’ over the endless footage of adorable dogs and puppies. It always leaves me feeling a bit envious as yet another family chooses a puppy to make their life complete.
We all love the idea of dogs in our family and our girls are desperate for one, but every time the subject comes up, we debate it, we consider it, and we shelve it again.
Last year, I finally decided to leave my career as a pharmacist. When I told the kids about it, Emily didn’t miss a beat, ‘If you’ve left work, can we have a puppy?’
So, here I am again, weighing up the pros and cons of dog ownership.
I love dogs!
I’m not a fan of cats. I think that’s why they always come and jump on my knee and pester me when I visit people who have them. I’m actually a bit scared of them. Perhaps it’s because I had a bad cat experience when I was little: a cat lashed out and scratched me when I tried to stroke it.
Emily is allergic to cats anyway. Her reaction to them has gotten worse over time. The most recent reaction didn’t even involve much contact with a cat but ended with a trip to the Emergency Department when her eyes puffed up and she started to complain that her throat felt tight! No cats for us then…What a shame!
Now, before I get lots of complaints from cat lovers, let me say for the record: I am sure there are many lovely cats out there that bring pleasure to their owners. Me? I just don’t think cats put enough effort into the relationship. It’s all a bit one-sided. You love them, feed them, give them shelter, stroke them, play with them, buy them little bells and scratching posts but somehow it never seems good enough. They look at you as if to say, ‘Really? Is that the best you can do?’*
I need a pet that ‘needs me’. Cats always give me the impression that they can get along just fine without their owners: as if they are only tolerating them because they give them a bowl of cat food every now and again.
Dogs are so different to cats. I love dogs because they need me and love me and they give something back! I know you aren’t supposed to give to receive but it’s still nice to be appreciated, isn’t it?
Dogs are sad to see you go and delighted when you return. They like attention. They’re affectionate, loyal and loving. They’re ‘proper’ companions. That’s what I want. I want a pet I can love and they love me back. In my imagination, my dog will be well trained and loving, will spin around in circles when I arrive home and should I ever fall into a deep pit or be kidnapped by fugitives, my dog will run miles and miles to fetch help.
*There is an exception to my ‘not a fan of cats’ stance. I was very fond of ‘Tizzie’, my friends Alex and Amanda’s cat who died recently. She was more like a soft, pudgy, furry cushion that just sat on my knee whilst I stroked her…Very therapeutic.
We grew up with dogs.
We had two golden Cocker Spaniels called Bess and Beauty when we were growing up. I can still remember when dad bought them home: Bess first, and Beauty a little while after.
Bess was a temperamental pedigree from a long line of show dogs. Beauty was named ironically, being the runt of a bulk-standard spaniel litter with ears that were way too long. I’m sure they wouldn’t even let her through the front door at Crufts. She couldn’t even sit down properly when she was a puppy. Her little back legs stuck out in front of her. Beauty may not have been a ‘stunner’, but she had the most beautiful temperament, (unlike grumpy show dog Bess). She was patient, loving, and never, ever snapped or growled at anyone: no matter how rough and tumble we were when we were kids.
I loved those dogs. Sadly, they died while I was away at university and the house never seemed the same without them. For months after they passed away, we were closing doors to stop them ‘getting out,’ or going to refill their water bowl before realizing there was no longer a water bowl to fill.
I think if you have grown up with dogs, it’s very difficult to get them out of your system. You always feel like there is something ‘missing.’
Dogs are good for your health and wellbeing.
There’s tonnes of scientific evidence that having a dog can improve your mental health. They offer companionship to people on their own and stroking a dog has been shown to reduce anxiety and stress.
Specially trained dogs are used to help children with autism and there is evidence that dogs can detect whether people have serious illnesses and even certain cancers.
Dogs can also help you to keep fit. We would certainly exercise more if we had a dog to walk.
The kids are desperate for a dog.
Emily has been saving her pocket money and has started a ‘dog’ fund. She’s also started walking the neighbour’s dog and even asked them if they could ‘draw up a dog walking schedule.’ The only thing is, she isn’t old enough to walk them by herself so she picks the most inopportune moments to ask me to take her!
We’ve tried the whole ‘dog substitute’ idea by getting two guinea pigs, but it just isn’t the same.
There are dogs everywhere.
Everybody seems to be getting a dog or puppy at the moment. Every time we turn up at the school gate, there’s yet another puppy tied up outside. It’s like being an alcoholic who has been locked in a brewery: seeing all of these lovely pups every day and trying not to succumb to the temptation.
My neighbours bought a puppy a few months ago and another neighbor brought one home this week. There’s no escape. Every time another person gets one I go through the same ‘Doggy Yes, Doggy No?’ argument in my head. It’s becoming harder and harder to resist the urge. I even went as far as asking for the details of a breeder from one of the dog owners (don’t tell Richard and the kids. I didn’t actually get in contact).
I’ve done my research.
I may not have a dog, but I’ve certainly researched it extensively, (This admission will not come as a surprise to those who know me well).
- I’ve read books about dog breeds and training dogs.
- I’ve watched programmes about dogs, dog behavior and dog training. Whether it’s Paul O’Grady showing us the wonderful dogs at Battersea Dogs Home on ‘For the love of Dogs’ or Kate Humble helping families to choose their perfect puppy.
- I’ve trawled through website after website in the quest for information on the perfect breed. I’ve searched for reputable dog breeders and browsed the ‘dogs needing a home’ pages of rescue centres. I’ve filled out online forms to discover which breeds would be most suited to joining our family.
- I’ve asked my friends who have dogs about their experiences. I keep hoping they will say ‘It’s awful! I wish I’d never got a dog.’ But they don’t! They keep telling me how wonderful it is and how it’s enhanced their lives and how the kids love having a dog.
I’ve already got a list of dog breeds and names!
You may know by now that I’m a listaholic (see here), so it should come as no surprise that I have a ‘Dog list.’ In fact, I’ve had a shortlist of breeds in my head for years. I’ve tweaked it and honed it over time. There have been many ‘movers and shakers’ in terms of the breeds in my top five. A few designer breeds have popped into the top five in recent years…Yep, I’ve had a hypothetical dog list on the go for ages!
I rang my sister a while back (when I was still working) and we had a chat about dogs. My sister is fabulous and knows me very, very, well as you will see from the conversation we had…Or how I remember our conversation, (it may have been slightly embellished but is based on a true story)
(This is for you, Emma at Islandliving365, because I love, love, love your dialogue posts!)
Me: I really want a dog!
Sister: Me too!
Me: I miss having a dog and the kids are breaking down my ‘it’s not practical to have a dog,’ defenses.
Sister: I know what you mean.
Me: I even rang dad and told him he needed to get a dog and gave him a list of our requirements. Of course, we’d look after it when the kids are on holiday.
Sister: Ha! What did he say to that?
Me: To be honest, he didn’t seem overly keen.
Me: I keep trying to talk myself out of it because I’m working and we haven’t got family nearby to look after him when we are away and I don’t want ‘Rizzoli’ to go in kennels and get kennel cough and die, or anything.
Me: Ermmm, yes.
Sister: You’ve chosen the name of your hypothetical dog?
Me: [sheepishly] Maybe.
Sister: Sorry, go on.
Me: I’ve erm, done some research.
Sister: I’m sure you have…
Me: [quietly] I’ve made a list.
Sister: No surprise there then!
Me: I’m serious.
Sister: Oh, I know you are.
Me: [ignoring the sarcasm]. It’s a hypothetical dog list…Of my favourite breeds of dog and favourite dog names.
Sister: *Snorts* (in a very ladylike way, obviously. She may read this).
Me: Not helping!
Me: Are you still there?
Sister: [Lets out a breath]…Me and Andy have got a hypothetical dog list too.
Me: Wait! You have?!! Why didn’t you tell me?
Me: Because why?! I thought I was going through the ‘need a dog’ thing on my own.
Sister: We really want a dog too but we haven’t got a garden and…
Me: [interrupting] What breeds have you got on your list?
Sister: I’m not telling you.
Me: What do you mean, you’re not telling me?!
Sister: Because you’ll copy me!
Me: Copy you?! What? Are we six or something?!
Sister: No, but…
Me: Are you serious?
Me: Okay, Okay. How’s about I tell you my list first and then you tell me yours?
Me: Shieshk! Okay, [excitedly] First on my list is a Cocker Spaniel. Not a solid colour because they can suffer from ‘rage’ and Bess was golden and grumpy and the multi-coloured ones have better natures. I actually wanted a Golden Retriever but I am being very sensible and ruling out big dogs.
Sister: Right. Next?
Me: A ‘Cavapoo’, which is a cross between a Cavalier King Charles Spaniel and a Poodle. Cavapoos have the lovely temperament of a Cavalier and don’t shed too much because of the ‘poo’ part.
Sister: [chuckling] Next?
Me: Third on my list is a Shih-Tzu because they are cute and small and fluffy and come in lots of different colours.
Sister: They are cute.
Me: Fourth is the Miniature Schnauzer because they have great temperaments and they are one of the only breeds the Asthma Society recommends as they don’t usually cause allergies.
Me: Well, Emily wants a Pug. But, I dunno. They can have breathing difficulties and someone told me that if you stroke their head too hard their eyes might pop out and you know how squeamish I am about eyes!
Sister: [Worriedly] Their eyes can’t pop out can they?
Me: Well. I am just not prepared to take the risk. Anyway, I’ve told you my list, so tell me yours!
Sister: Is that all of them then? I thought you said a while back that you liked miniature dachshunds?
Me: Richard wants a miniature dachshund because he likes the idea of having a ‘comedy dog.’ I’m not keen. They have terrible back problems and have trouble with stairs and deep snow…Maybe if we lived in a bungalow…I did toy with the idea of a Bichon Frise Shih-tzu cross because the frizzy part means they won’t shed lots of dog hair, apparently.
Sister: Bichon Frise and Shih-Tzu cross?
Me: Yeah. I think the breeders call them Shih-chons or Shu-chons or something…I’d been saying ‘Shit-Freeze’ for weeks!
Sister: [choking on tea] Jaaannnnne!
Me: Or maybe I could have a cross between a Bull dog and a Shih-tzu! Then I’d have a Bull…
Sister: [interrupting] Okay, okay, I’ll tell you my list…
I’ll have to stop there so nobody copies my sister’s hypothetical dog list, but you get the idea.
I could go on about the reasons why I want a dog, but this post is already way longer than I anticipated!
So, after working myself up into a frenzy again about having a dog, I need to look at the cold hard facts (Boo!). These are the reasons why I haven’t put a deposit down on any of the absolutely gorgeous puppies I have viewed online for years…
We don’t have family living nearby.
Although I’m working from home at the moment, we don’t have anyone to leave the dog with when we go away on holiday. As I said, I’d rather not leave them in a kennel. Richard’s mum is in Derbyshire and my mum and dad are in the north-east. My sister is in Manchester and is busy enough with two small children.
I know we can take them on holiday in the caravan and some cottages and hotels are dog friendly, but it’s still trickier than not having a dog.
We also visit friends and family some weekends and it isn’t always possible to take a dog.
Dogs are expensive.
Just as the TV program showed, even small dogs can cost over £2,000 per year when you include insurance, food, toys, bedding, kennel fees etc. That’s a lot of money when I have just left my job.
Dogs tie you down.
You can’t leave dogs for hours on end. You can’t just go out for the day and leave the dog. Your life revolves around making sure you are back to let them out and feed them. You can’t be spontaneous and suddenly decide to go away for the weekend. We like having the freedom to come and go as we please and if we want to visit friends one weekend, we can just pack and go.
A dog is for life.
Some dogs can live for 14-15 years. Getting a dog isn’t a decision you can take lightly or rush into: you are in it for the long-haul. The kids will leave home at some point during that time (or at least I hope they do!). What about all of those Sandals All Inclusive Holidays me and Richard had planned to go on together? Just kidding, I don’t want to think about the kids leaving yet.
Doggy yes? Doggy no?
So there you have it: I want a dog but I can’t have a dog. Or can I?
Over to you.
Can you help with our doggy dilemma? Tell me about your experiences. Give me some advice, for or against! As always, I would love to hear from you.
…And if you are a cat lover, convince me that I have got it all wrong!
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Why not consider a rescue dog, there are so many who need loving homes.
We are also thinking about getting a dog and will get a rescue when the time comes. Have a look at the strays from Greece website http://www.straysofgreece.org. Some lovely dogs and the stories will break your heart. The charity does such a great job that I’ve joined and give some money every month.
I’d better not look at the Greek Strays website. It could be dangerous!!! I will weep and submit! Thanks again for your helpful comments, Annabelle.
Sorry, another post…
Don’t worry about going away on holiday and having to put your dog in kennels. Get a dog/house sitter. We’ve used house/cat sitters we’ve found on https://www.trustedhousesitters.com/gb/ and they’ve been great. Have a look. There is a fee to join the website but most of the sitters do not charge. We have used 5 sitters to look after our cat, all were great.
Think about how much exercise the dog will need. You can guarantee that YOU will end up with the majority of dog walking once your husband and daughter’s initial enthusiasm has lapsed. Believe me this will happen; I have canvassed friends and family who have dogs and it’s the women who always ends up walking the dog.
Think about grooming, how much time you will need to spend grooming and bathing. Long haired dogs smell more than short haired ones, especially when they are wet. There will also be costs for sending the dog to the ‘hair dresser’ for clipping.
When I was growing up one of the dogs we had was a miniature schnauzer. She was a lovely dog with a fantastic temperament, very loving. But she need clipping at least twice a year. Didn’t need too much exercise thought.
Thanks so much for your informative and helpful comments, Annabelle. You make some really good points. I am going to look back through all of these comments next time the wanting a dog thing comes up!!
Start up a dog-sitting business?
I’ts definitely one of the options!
Don’t get a dog. You have outlined some of the good reasons. Your house, car, clothes will all smell like dogs. They will destroy stuff in your house and you have to pick up their poop at least once a day in a bag. They will slobber on you and generally make a mess. Spend the 2 grand a year saved on cool family holidays instead.
Lol! Okay! Done! Problem solved 😉 Thanks for stopping by!
Haha I had to laugh at the bit about Shih-tzus as that’s what my Grandparents had growing up and I could never spell it correctly and hated having to ask my teachers in case they thought I was just swearing!! I had asthma as a child (the reason my parents used for not getting a dog and getting a budgie instead – although that budgie was a crazy bird and I did love him so!) Anyway, my point is, when my parents were having an extension built and I stayed at my Grandma’s for several weeks her dog lay on my bed every night and it never caused issues with my asthma… So there, mum and dad (sticks tongue out!)
We recently got two Guinea pigs as they seemed like the perfect pets for us… We’re in a rented property so dogs and cats are out of the question but we wanted something more interactive than hamsters and gerbils. They are still getting used to us but I love them so much and so does O (who is 4). They make noises at us to let us know how they’re feeling, they eat all my veggie scraps when I’m preparing dinner, they can go to my parents when we go on holiday in August… Just lovely! I know they aren’t a dog but just thought I’d throw the idea in there, just because 😉
You are right. If you can’t have a dog, Guinea pigs are great. They are affectionate and cute and squeak and aren’t as smelly or mean as rabbits. OUr girls love ours but them and their dad are in charge of looking after them after I was sole carer for the last lot that sadly died…Not because of me, I might add. I just didn’t want to end up being the one that fed them and cleaned them this time! Thanks for stopping by.
I grew up with dogs (four of them at times). I love saying that it sounds like I living in the woods and was raised by wolves. I am definitely a dog lover, but I have never had one since I left home. We would have ready made babysitters with my parents who only live round the corner, but they aren’t getting any younger so I wouldn’t like to burden them. The main thing for us is going on holiday, Which is probably why we haven’t got one even though I work from home.
When I met the husband he was (and still is) a cat person. I never thought I could love a cat, but each one that we have had since we have been together have been lovely little things. We currently have 2 sisters and have had them since they were 10 weeks old. They are the most affectionate kitties and sometimes I struggle to get work done as they insist on both sitting on my knee in front of the laptop.
Obviously a cat isn’t on the cards, but I just wanted to let you know that there are some very loveable cats out there!
What about minding someone’s dog whilst they are at work? More of a commitment than walking the neighbour’s dog, but less than having your own. Or I keep seeing something on Facebook about borrow my dog?
The breeds sound fab, I suspect that one day little Rizzoli may well come to live with you! 😉
Siena, Thanks so much for taking the time to leave such a fab comment. I love hearing about other people’s experiences. I am glad you have lovely, affectionate cats. I definitely think the dog borrowing is a better option! Thanks for stopping by.
Oh such a tricky one and we have the same debates. Mr C would love a Basset Hound but I have said no as they hoooooooooooowl. I would like a Sausage Dog, so cute, an English Sheepdog, not practical, Cocker Spaniel as they are just lovely. I think that is it. I love that your sister can snort ladylike ;-). Thanks for mentioning me. You are going to have to make the decision on your own though. Mr C did tell me that when I became a SAHM we could get a dog but we haven’t yet and I think that it is because like you we don’t have family near us.
It is a very tricky one but the ‘force is strong with me’ my Jedi powers means I should be able to resist 😉
Collect dog gnomes?
Lol! You nutter, Mrs LifeLongHoliday 😉
I could have written this very post! Although I think a cockerpoo would be top of my list, closely followed by the cavapoo. We would love a dog but then I think of the days out and holidays we enjoy, my work hours etc.
Have you heard of the ‘Borrow my doggy’ website? Might be something to consider. Don’t whatever you do, subscribe to the Many Tears Animal Rescue Facebook site. You will want to adopt every one 🙂
Nice to meet you at Blogcamp last Saturday be the way! (First thing in the morning).
Hi Christine! So glad you popped over and thanks for hanging out with me first thing at Blogcamp when I felt like a rabbit in headlights! I am so glad it isn’t just me who has this constant tension of ‘Doggy Yes, Doggy No.’ I know that the sensible idea is borrowing one and it is very handy having a willing owner next door. Will I see you at BritMums?
Dogs have owners….
Cats have staff…. 🙂
I’m a cat person more myself, but I understand that is a no go for you.
How about volunteering to walk someone else’s dog for them on a weekly basis (one day a week) that way you get some of the enjoyment… but without the commitment and vets bills!
I’m liking your thinking, Steve! A ‘test’ run, if you will before launching into a bigger commitment…If ever! Thanks for stopping by.
Aww we would love a dog but just not ready to complete commit to one yet. If you really want one I say just go for it, the pros definitely outweigh the cons, I love growing up with a dog. We have a cat now, she lives inside, plays fetch and sits with us on the sofa..she’s basically a dog ha.xx #fortheloveofBLOG
Ha! I think I need a cat-dog like yours!
You should definitely get a dog. When Mother was single and long before she had me, she had a black lab who was a little terror. He’d break into the fridge constantly, open the window and bark at people and run off. He was a naughty little thing. But he looked after her beautifully when she lived alone and they loved each other and he taught Mother that she could take care of another being long before I made my appearance. #fortheloveofBLOG
Aw. Dog can be such amazing companions, can’t they? Neeeeeeeeeddddd Dooooooooooggggg!
Go for it…….or maybe not! Jeez, I think it’s such a hard one, like kids they are so time consuming and you have to put the time and love in. Also like kids there’s not a right time, just a time you need to shuffle round how you do things in your life. Good luck with your decision!:)
My daughter has sneakily changed my phone screensaver to a puppy!
We have the same conversation with our kids every now and then. My hubby works and I work part time, so it would not be fair to get a dog as we cannot give the dog the time it needs.
Hopefully one day we can 🙂
So many cute doggy pics!! I think getting a dog is kind of like having kids – it’s a life change, and there’s no way you can pretend it isn’t. What you get in return is well worth it though! I’d love to have a dog but my other half is badly allergic, so I doubt we’ll ever have one of our own. I see my parents most days though and they have a dog called Bracken so it’s almost like having my own! 🙂 #KCACOLS
Is he allergic to all dogs? That’s a shame, but nice you can get your fix by seeing your parent’s dog.
I love this post! Mainly because for many years I’ve told my husband that we will get a pug eventually. It’s my dream to have one. I’ve recently planted the seed that one for my 40th (not for another eight years) would be awesome as we’d have had our kids and they would be old enough to help out. #KCACOLS
If you do get one, be careful when you stroke their heads, Becky 😉
If you can get one, get one! You’ve got 8 years to research it and work on your husband 😉
Thanks for popping by.
You are waaay overthinking it – get a dog and experience unfailing, non-judgemental, unconditional love and worship. Every time you walk in the door, whether you’ve been gone for 5 minutes or all day, you will be greeted as the most wonderful life form on the planet.
I’m up and down like a yo-yo with all of these comments! DOgs are lovely, though.
I could have written this post myself! I’ve been wanting a dog for the longest time but for similar reasons we haven’t adopted one yet. I know we will eventually but when the time is right for us. Good luck with your decision! #kcacols
Ah, Nicole, I’m, glad it’s not just me!
Other half and I always knew we wanted a dog. The challenging part was choosing a breed and actually finding the dog. We calculated the budget to see if we could afford welcoming a furry little friend into our lives. We opted for a Danish-Swedish Farmdog and found someone about an hour’s drive away who had a litter of puppies. About a month before we collected him I ended up finding out I was pregnant! We had put down a deposit and were actually in two minds whether to cancel, but decided to go ahead as the puppy wouldn’t be that young once baby was born.
Now we have Loki, almost a year old. I’m so happy we chose to take him as he’s wonderful with our daughter. He’s so gentle and patient. We don’t regret it one bit and are happy to have our beloved pooch as part of our family. #KCACOLS
I’ve. Never heard of that breed. I’m going to check it out on Google! Glad, you’ve had such a lovely experience.
I can see both sides. But coming from someone who has a dog, I would get one. Children love them. If your unsure about a puppy you could always consider a rescue dog! #KCACOLS
I think you need to get a dog!!!! You obviously really want one and I think you’d be a great dog owner and the kids would love it. We have a working cocker spaniel who is so loving but to be honest, he is hard work and never stops and they definitely do tie you down. But we get out every day on our dog walks and to see my toddler with him is just so cute. #KCACOLS x
Arghhh! My resistance is crumbling. I am seeing dogs everywhere since writing this post. Richard is being super-sensible and the voice of reason though…Maybe one day! Thanks for your comment!
Just commented but think it went to spam? I think you should def get a dog, BUT…they are hard work and our dog is non-stop but he’s a working breed. Perhaps if you get one that’s quite relaxed and happy to chill out that would be more practical? Bu they are lovely for kids to grow up with x #KCACOLS
Arghhh! I think there should be such a thing as a dog library! Just book em out for a bit.
It looks like the pros greatly outweigh the cons. Especially doing it for the kids. It’s so important that they grow up with an animal. It helps them bond and learn compassion!
Even if we don’t get one (sniffle) then I am going to make sure our kids dog sit and dog walk for others. Thanks for taking the time to comment 🙂
I got bitten by a dog when i was younger and sadly that has just put me off for life. My kids are desperate for a different pet though #KCACOLS
Pooey about the dog biting you 🙁 I can recommend Guinea pigs…They are lovely.
My husband would love a dog, and at 16 months Arthur is particularly taken with them too – but I’m just not as sure. At the moment we couldn’t have one anyway as we barely have room for ourselves in our house we def don’t have room for a dog. Financially it isn’t an option for us right now either – we just couldn’t afford it. If space and money weren’t an issue I think my husband would come home one day with a dog – but my issues are this : I dont get any sleep as it is with Arthur, I don’t want to have to go through the night training with a puppy. I also don’t want to get up any earlier than I do to walk the dog. I could. Probably get over those issues, but the biggest problem for me is dog poo, I cannot stand it! I really don’t think I could pick it up!! #KCACOLS
Yup, the poo is an issue.I’m a fairweather dog walker as well…Not a fan of the wet dog! Smelly!
Ha ha I love this – it is such a massive decision to get a dog and its so difficult to take the jump for all the reasons in your no category. We have two Dachshunds – I adore them, my husband pretends he doesn’t like them but its just not true. However – they are hard work, worse than the kids somedays! Think carefully because once you have that gorgeous puppy you realise that its kinda like having an extra child (only twice as naughty and destructive) They are worth it though (in my opinion) #fortheloveofBLOG
I still chuckle about the story of the hungry Sausages! I am leaning towards borrowing dogs and puppies!
I have a Mini Schnauzer. His name is Max. Max says get a dog. 🙂 My two cats, Cleo and Beans, say no way!
hehe. I love my animals and we live in the country. Cats are great when you go away, if it is for a day or two they are fine with a sitter popping in to make sure they have food and water. Dogs do need a more live in sitter. They are pricey and require more attention.
Love this post, enjoy the decision-making process. #kcacols
Jen! You have one of my hypothetical dog list dogs! Oh, I love them. My friend has two and she keeps threatening to give them to me (she loves them really). We have looked after them for the weekend before. Mimi the littlest is a bit grumpy though. I would want a dog that was great with little kids…I know most Schnauzers are even tempered and sooooo cute. (I need a picture! Can you email me one? or is he featured on your blog?) Thanks for commenting.
My hubby would LOVE a dog but I have to be the voice of reason. As much as I would love one too it’s just not practical for us as we are both at work, get home and I blog and hubby still works so we just don’t have the time to commit to a dog 🙁
Yep. I understand that, Ami. My hubby is the sensible one in our relationship…Well, I am too because we still haven’t got one. But I WANT one *pouts*
Oh my gosh, I am also desperate for a dog, but have accepted that, for now, it’s not to be. I will confess that I also have a hypothetical list of breeds. Maybe when my little boy is a bit older, and maybe when we don’t both work so much… So, when we’re retired I guess!! It’s such a huge decision – good luck with it! #KCACOLS
Ha! Katy, I am so glad I’m not the only one with a hypothetical dog list 🙂 Keep me posted if you cave and get one!
Oh it really does sound like you really want on and I do believe they can be a great addition to a family, after all we are not known as a nation of dog lovers for nothing. But for my part, I am not a a dog person, my OH is and I fear our children will grow up wanting one. But for all the reasons you mentioned I would not want one, they also make me sneeze so personally it is a no go but I know I am in the there xx #KCACOLS
Oh my it sounds like you have put a lot of thought into getting a dog, and you have even done the research. It also sounds like the whole family are really keen too, and yet you still seem to be stuck on the fence. Maybe you just need to take the plunge, or perhaps there is a reason why you are yet to take the plunge? But whatever you decide I hope it’s the right decision for all involved including the dog.xx #KCACOLS
That is so true! It isn’t just about a dog being right for us, its about us being right for a dog. Thanks for your comments.
I love dogs, we have a Border Collie called Joe and he does make our little family! We are however very lucky as my parents, who also have Collies, look after him as and when we need them to. Dogs do tie you down and with children that’s not always an easy position to be in.
Thanks for popping by. You are so lucky to have family who can help out with the dog sitting! I think the whole dog-sitting thing is looking like our best option.
I brought a puppy back in April this year. I work part time and pop home in my lunch break. He is loving, playful, cuddly and curls up next to me when he’s sleepy. My girls love him too. He is also very hardwork, excitable, expensive and needy. I keep thinking when he’s an adult it’ll become easier! Getting a pup/dog is certainly not something to jump into as you know. I don’t regret getting him though as my children are just as hyper so he just joins in haha! #KCACOLS
Really helpful, Rachel! A balanced view of pros and cons but ultimately an ‘I don’t regret it.’
It certainly sounds like you have done your homework and having grown up with dogs you will have some idea as to the amount of work they can be. We have two dogs, they are a cross between pugs and jack russels (jugs – yes really) and they are my pride and joy, my little fur babies and I am completely in love with them both. However, if I was not quite so smitten, then they would be extremely difficult to take care of. They have destroyed my flooring, cushions, skirting boards, rugs, books, shoes and just about anything else they can reach time and time again and no amount of training has made any difference – they are just really naughty! They bark randomly if anyone dares to walk past the house, waking the baby up in the process. They cost a fortune in vets bills and insurance and proper dog food and they shed their fur EVERYWHERE. So you really, really have to love them to live with them. That said, I wouldn’t ever be without them and they are part of our family. Good luck with whatever you decide to do and thanks for sharing on #fortheloveofBLOG x
Wow, Fi! You must really love them if they have been that destructive and you have let them stay!! Really thorough and helpful advice. Thanks for hosting #fortheloveofblog!
We have always had dogs growing up and I bought my first dog at 21 when I moved out – a boxer, who drooled over everything! We had a second boxer when the first died and then when Charlie died I swore we would never have another dog again, they are hard work and also they do really tie you. But then we found our dog Oscar, a cavapoochan (king Charles spaniel, poodle and bichan frise cross) and he was the most beautiful bundle of white fluff and somehow we ended up buying him and five years later, I don’t regret it for one minute! We are, however, very lucky that my parents live close by so they have him when we go away. The kids adore him though and that is always lovely to see! #KCACOLS
Aw! He sounds gorgeous and you are so lucky to have parents nearby who can help. Thanks for stopping by. Laura!
Do it, get a dog. Get a rescue. Family may not be able to look after it but friends will. I look after my neighbours dogs all the time. I love dogs but I have four cats. The cats definitely need me, even Merry who most of the time will ignore you and give you evil looks definitely needs me.
But if your daughter is allergic, she may allergic to dogs too.
Thanks for your helpful comments and for popping over to my blog.
We debated the dog thing forever, my list looked a lot like yours. But, we got a dog. And we couldn’t be happier. Our beagle, Copper, is a rescue, we got him when he was two. he was already housebroken, already fixed, all the puppy work done. And I would never get a puppy after having gotten a rescue adult dog. He is fine when we leave for the day, overnight we get a friend to popover or take him to the kennel, we found one he actually loves, they spoil him. He loves our kids and sleeps, most nights with our daughter (she is 5) He lets her do his nails, she lets her put weird wigs on him, and necklaces, he helps her with dinner. My son cleans the yard, my daughte feeds him. And when my husband started working nights having him here made me feel a lot safer. And when someone was creeping around in our backyard it was Copper who scared him away. We love our hound, he loves us, and he could not be more grateful since his last owner didnt treat him well. It sounds to me like you want a dog and really can have one but are scared to make the leap, do it, with thought and love and you won’t regret it #KCACOLS
This is such a helpful comment, Allyson. It’s so good to hear about your positive experience after getting an adult rescue dog, rather than a puppy. Plus. as you say, a lot of the hard work is already done. Thanks for stopping by!
I grew up with dogs but don’t have one now. Before we had our baby 4 months ago we were both working full time and out of the house 12 hour days so having a dog would be unfair to it. Now I have the baby I still don’t think I would like a dog around her so I cannot see us getting one soon. Maybe when she is older we will rethink.
My kids really want a dog, but can’t get one because I’m slightly allergic. Every year for every holiday, all they ask for is a dog, which I can’t give them. What should I do?
Miniature Schnauzers are apparently good for those with allergies.